Behavioral Styles

I hear people and teach them to listen to themselves through their bodies, minds and soul purpose.  After all, health is a balance of energy and connection to 5 Realms of Being but there is a HUGE component to whether or not anything presented to you will be utilized.  That component is your attitude.  

Attitudes Can't be Changed from the Outside In but behaviors Can

Interestingly enough, behavioral science has demonstrated that no matter what I tell you, no matter how logical my attitude is about a behavior, I will not be able to impose any education or give you any information that will directly transform your behaviors until you change your attitude about that behavior first.  If you have ever spoken with an old stubborn mule of a fella, you know how draining that exchange can be.  Ahh, but here lies the caveat.  If,  I instead understand your behaviors and then I create a social support structure to reinforce my attitude and the behaviors I want from you,  THEN I will probably see you change your behavior to mimic mine After enough positive reinforcement, I will see a transformation and then you will likely tell me your attitude changed to mine without really knowing why. 

Assessing the Objective of Behavior

I have always worked the planned care of the body by way of aligning with the mindset of my clients so a few years ago, as I ventured into a health coaching model of service delivery, I came across some psychosocial assessments that had been birthed out of the work of the late Dr. David Mefford.  As a former Athletic Trainer, I could see how my female performance coaching could benefit from the expanded linguistic component within axiological assessment of the athletes language of values helped by my friend, former professional Hockey Player Mike Hartman and former NFL player Leonard Wheeler right here in Charlotte.  So I began to play with these tools to figure out if I could get a better objective assessment tool for my bio psychosocial model of evaluation. Now the game became the pain of living with discomfort related to a diagnosed dysfunction or being a health care provider misaligned with his or her care delivery game instead of football, lacrosse and hockey.  

4 Styles Have Become Very Helpful for Communicating Action Plans

The popular disc assessments are great but the language of the assessment does not take into account the mindset of the person approaching the questionnaire.  Therefore, if I am working in the realm of purpose with my health care client, It may not align well with their work environment.  Likewise, if I am supporting someone who is unhappy in their lifestyle as a post partum mom struggling with leaving her former valued career, I may not tap into her mindset unless I offer the words of work life values. So in comes my brand of bio psycho social eval. 

The Dominant Partner: 

This client is a natural leader but he or she may not be one wanting to work as a team.  I better have a direct return on her investment of time and money outlined because she is focused on a goal and needs to see progress every session. I may also see anger when challenged on her role in this relationship and I may want present 3 choices for the day but have her lead what we are going to do.

The Influencer Client:

This client is everyone's friend. She just lights up the room with her energy and she wants to talk all the time.  Well, I may want to present a list of things we need to accomplish that day and engage her thought a lot during the session making sure she is keeping focus on not getting too social with the group in the room or I may use her in group to lead the others as reinforcement of her progress as well. 

The Steady Minded Soul: 

This one a bit more quiet.  She comes to sessions with a question of where to focus and then really takes to being part of a team but does not need the glory.  I may want  to present an outline for the month to quiet her mind (she does not like fast change) and explain where we are headed as a team. 

The Consistent Client: 

This one ALWAYS shows up, in fact she has a problem when you are sick and have to cancel because she would have shown up as scheduled anyways.  She follows the rules of your care plan to end so I don't jazz things up on a whim or become too creative because she will get a bit uneasy. She really needs to know what the risk of things are and would feel much better if I sent that to her to decide her comfort level online before with lots of evidence supporting those assessments. 

See how having some objectives might tap into setting up a more helpful behavior and compliant attitude? She takes the assessment, gets tons of clarity to understand some of her strain and my subjective has nothing to do with her quantitative and qualitative results. 

Want to learn more about your behaviors and motivators that make you unique or hold you back from a more abundant career? Need to improve client compliance by having a better way to help you both communicate? Maybe you are a coach or clinician wanting to add this to your evaluation tool box and offer a new revenue stream. Take an assessment and feel it out.     Learn more  


  1.  Hartman Institute(2014). In Memoriam: David Mefford